It's amazing to me that in spite of all life's lessons heretofore, I continue to believe in fairy tales. I repress all previous self knowledge and tell myself that something like making sugar cookies with my child will be a fun, satisfying, indeed happy memory for years to come.
Why do I insist on disregarding my own goal-oriented, task driven nature which is unable to really live in and enjoy the moment? I'm just not one of those people who can throw chocolate sprinkles around the kitchen with glee, working with grace and calm smiles with babies and cats underfoot. In fact my own good humor is inversely proportionate to time spent in the kitchen.
I think it's because I really, really WANT to be this kind of mother--one who just rolls with all the punches and back aches with a peaceful sense of calm, or at the very worst, a little sigh. I keep trying to make myself into this person.
I probably shouldn't have used a Martha Stewart recipe. She manages to turn even sugar cookies into rocket science. There were all these secret, hidden steps which turned the project into an all day event. Poor Ethan just wanted to get to the cookie cutting part and I had to keep telling him, "Ah, ok after I put the dough in the freezer for 15 more minutes...", or some variation on this theme.
Ethan kept wanting to "help" me out and of course, that was the point, right? Well, our kitchen is not really a place I feel comfortable sharing with another human. It's so small that I often find myself in the middle of a culinary endeavor, twirling helplessly around and around with a hot pan or a mixing bowl in my hands, trying to find a place to put it down. If I put a chair in this space which would be required for Ethan to reach the counter and therefore help, I wouldn't be able to access a good portion of my work area. Believe me, I've tried it. And I do maintain some working memory.
Add to this mix the fact that dinnertime began to roll around and, yes, I know, most people can handle this juggling act and so, I was determined, could I. I did it, I did it all. I made dinner and I made sugar cookies and they came out great except for the frosting which tasted like chalk but I was not a very friendly person in the process. I became angrier and more irritable and a part of me sat marvelling outside my own body, watching in horror this awful monster mother who snapped and yelled and fell apart at the slightest provocation.
I wonder sometimes, what it will take, short of a strong, illegal substance to make me relax enough to make a happy memory for my children.
And below you can see (if you look real closely) the beauty of the evening represented in Ethan's
Kiddley photo of the week for the theme, "Yummy".